better2gether577
Basics
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Location:
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I am looking for:Woman
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Zip Code:16001
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Age:47
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Height:5 ft. 11 in.
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Body:Slender
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Ethnicity:White
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Education:High School
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Job:Musician
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Has Kids:No
ABOUT
Hi!! I'm Colin.
This is longer than most, but please do read it all, it'll save us both a lot of time and energy! If you can't be bothered to read this then you aren't really serious about this or me, and you aren't the kind of person I'm looking for. Best wishes!!
Music is my life, been into it since age 6, making it since age 16, and a DJ since 1998. You have to love music, especially EDM, bc I will be playing gigs and working on production and I need someone I can share that with. I like electronic music and underground hip hop first and a lot of other random things. I do love me some very heavy metal on occasion too but it's ok if you do not lol. Absolutely NO COUNTRY (well, anything after 1965 anyway). If you're not into those types of music and never went to a rave and don't want to you probably will not match up well with me. Also I am a recovering alcoholic and heroin addict; I will always be up front and honest, my sobriety as well as self-respect depends on it. As a rave dj I partied seriously hard, (think VH1 "behind the music") and it took over my life and totally ruined it. But I put that behind me and am working all the time to clean up every part of my life. I am on methadone, but I have been 100% clean and sober since I started it 4.5 years ago and am tapering which means gradually lowering my dose until I'm off it. I'm doing it slow bc it's safer. Once I'm off it I will be heavily involved in AA and working a 12 step program. Just FYI. My sobriety is TOP priority and anything/anyone who jeopardizes it is gone, period. If you party that's fine, but I can't date you. If you don't party but you are a very occasional social drinker or an honest-to-god one-and-done girl, (glass of wine with dinner is fine) I can deal, but that's it. But in general if you're into improving yourself and cleaning up your life, or you are already living a clean lifestyle, I'd like to meet you. I am looking to date, but open to more if I find the right person, but that's a tall order! Also I am not religious but I believe in a higher power or a kind of cosmic consciousness from which everything emanates, or kind of I guess I see all reality and the universe itself as a manifestation of consciousness itself. I don't see this as fact, it's just a theory I guess. But I'm not into hard dogma, and I generally see spirituality as a personal thing, something that is unique for each person. That said, I'm interested in your ideas and would love to talk about it over dinner! =)
Who am I?
I'm an Aries but my moon is Libra - polar opposites! So i may contain contradictions but I may also make them somehow impossibly work together in harmony! I am an unconventional person in many ways. I LOVE to think and talk and I love ideas. I am a very deep thinker! If that kind of stuff scares you or turns you off, look elsewhere. People who know me best, and I have some friends I've had for 20, even almost 30 years, have said and often show that they have a lot of respect for me, and have a high regard for me. I have earned that the hard way, like everything I have. I have been through hell, through many highs, and the lowest lows. It was all the consequence of my own choices at the end of the day. I went from being one of the most respected DJs in Western PA/eastern OH, to being a homeless junkie. But everything I went through made me better. I have learned some secrets of life and happiness that most others just can't see. And I know they are true because I put them to the test all the time, and they work! I truly appreciate every blessing and take nothing for granted. I had to completely change my whole understanding of life and my philosophy. I have rebuilt myself, and am still rebuilding. I don't plan to ever stop. I quit drugs and booze after 20 years, I quit smoking, I recently overhauled my diet and eat a strict diet now which requires I cook everything I eat, NO processed food. It has cured or greatly reduced several health issues I've been having for up to 20 years! Amazing! But I'd love to have someone to cook with and for and eat with! (I'm am a pretty good cook, so if you like a man to cook you dinner I'm def for you).
Next thing is I'm going to get in shape. I want to meet someone positive and who has or is changing their life too, and wants to find another person to create awesomeness with. I strive every day to be better than yesterday and be a good person. I am very logical (think Spock!) and am not overly emotional, but I have strong feelings, I just have learned to restrain them or they run away with me. I am not sentimental but I have a big heart and will help anyone who is truly in need and give the shirt off my back to a stranger without hesitation, or any thought of reward. A lot of ppl say stuff like that but you will see that I actually practice it. I believe in karma and reincarnation 100%. You only get out what you put in! Also incase it matters, I do not have a vehicle ATM, there are many reasons for that thich i will tell you all about when you ask me, this is too long already! (as you can see I suck at being brief or to the point. I know it and I apologize!)
What I am looking for
Ideally you are someone who will amaze, inspire, and encourage me, and feel the same about me. We should be better together than we are apart. You share my passion for life and self-improvement, as well as helping others. You are into or open to volunteer work and giving back. You are probably someone who has also been through a lot, and so you know who you are and what is important in life. You are over childish games and unnecessary emotional drama. You can admit when you need help but do not cower or run at the first sign of trouble, you roll up your sleeves and dig in, and I'll be right next to you! I'm looking for a real woman! Also I am very honest and open and relationships can't work without communication and honesty/integrity, so please if you are the kind of person who can't handle the truth or who would rather be told a pleasant lie than an unpleasant truth, I am not the one. I want ppl around me who will tell me when I'm screwing up and not be afraid to risk pissing me off to stop me from hurting myself or someone else. That means by proxy that you want that too and are prepared to prove it if it is necessary. I hate when someone asks your opinion but gets offended when you tell them anything they don't like. I am not an asshole and am in fact a total sweetheart/softie and I have tact, but I won't bullshit you on something important. Sometimes the truth hurts!
You are into fitness as well, or at least, like me, looking to get into it but maybe need some extra encouragement from a partner. You can be happy with or without money and "stuff;" and you count your blessings and are grateful for what you have! Gold-diggers will find nothing of interest here lol. I do work at Walmart and maintain steady hours/income, but it isn't high ATM, just so you don't think I'm a bum. My wealth is love, passion, and understanding. I'm very much a work in progress. I want you to be a part of that! Let's build something together, let's make a life that others only dream of but are afraid to or don't know how to realize, and then show others how! If this appeals to you and you think you fit the bill, (and don't think I'm totally weird lmao) hit me up. I am not looking to play around really so if you are or you want to try to take me for a ride, don't bother! Been there, done that. Also, It would be great if you are into science and/or science fiction or at least open to it, (I LOVE it) and if when you're not out fighting the good fight you like to curl up with that special someone and watch movies or a good show (stranger things??) and know how to relax. Maybe have a "lazy day" now and again, or maybe just "be." I'm an introvert at heart and def need down/quiet time regularly, so that's important to me too! Last thing, I've been lucky in the past to have some incredible and intense physical/sexual connections, and also emotional, but I've always lacked the intellectual connection, and I've found that to be something I can't do without. Since it's so rare to have all those things together, I have been pessimistic in the past. But I believe when the time is right the universe will bring us together. I hope that time is now! =) Ciao!
PS - I don't do racism/bigotry or any kind of hate or persecution of anyone based on anything they didn't choose or can't control, and I don't do cruelty or mistreatment of animals. I have many friends of all races and religions and political backgrounds as well as sexualities, and they are all good ppl which is all I care about! If you don't feel the same way do not message me!
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